How do you keep your man satisfied in bed?
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Sexual satisfaction is going to be specific to you and your partner. Everyone has different wants and needs, and you should talk to your partner about this. It can be kind of awkward if you've never done it before, but once the conversation gets started and the two of you put your interests out there, it's going to be a lot easier!
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The best way to satisfy a man in bed depends on his personal preferences and what he likes the most, so don't be afraid to ask him directly what he wants. If you're looking for some ideas and techniques to make him satisfied, here are some ideas:
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- Make the first move when he's not expecting it
- Do a sexy striptease in front of him
- Try a little dirty talk when you're in the mood
- Take your time with a little bit of foreplay
- Give him some direction on how he can satisfy you
- Whisper in his ear how good he's doing
- Try out a variety of positions to see what he likes best
- Make eye contact while you're in bed together
You've got to ask them what they want. Nobody is a mind reader. And the expectation that culture (film, TV shows, and books) has given us is that if they like it, we'll know. And the reality is not everyone is verbal; some people are shy, while others are in their own heads during sex. It's really important that if you are satisfying your partner, you're saying things like, "Do you like this? Can I go faster? Can I go slower? Where do you want me to touch you? Can I kiss you here?" Asking questions will be your best friend.
Finally, if you ask them and they aren't really sure or you're not really sure, you can share with them, "Hey, I maybe you're liking this, but I can't really tell, like, can you, you know, give me some sort of confirmation or if you don't talk, can you moan a little bit for me?" You can ask things of your partner to make sure that they're feeling good. Maybe they just don't know how to express it, or they're not comfortable, or they don't know what feels good for them. So, it's important that you're patient with them, that you ask, and that you both are on the same page about communication during the sexual act.
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Finally, if you ask them and they aren't really sure or you're not really sure, you can share with them, "Hey, I maybe you're liking this, but I can't really tell, like, can you, you know, give me some sort of confirmation or if you don't talk, can you moan a little bit for me?" You can ask things of your partner to make sure that they're feeling good. Maybe they just don't know how to express it, or they're not comfortable, or they don't know what feels good for them. So, it's important that you're patient with them, that you ask, and that you both are on the same page about communication during the sexual act.
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