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So like, I've had a thing for my best friend for 3-4 years, what do I do?

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09/04/25 4:52pm
Hoco and Prom are coming up and I really wanted to ask him to at least hoco. However, we were talking today and he has a bf ig. I hate the way I reacted and said yes to another guy asking me out...
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