This article was co-authored by Kevin Nahai and by wikiHow staff writer, Sophie Burkholder, BA. Kevin Nahai is a renowned life and relationship coach based in Beverly Hills, California. For over five years, he has helped individuals and couples transform their relationships, strengthen their communication, and create deeper fulfillment in their daily lives. Drawing from certifications in relationship counseling, cognitive behavioral therapy, and neuro-linguistic programming, Kevin blends evidence-based techniques with a compassionate, results-oriented approach. His insights have reached thousands through Nobody Listens to Kevin, his popular podcast known for translating complex psychological principles into relatable, actionable guidance. A graduate of the University of Southern California, Kevin holds both a bachelor’s degree in Communication and Media Studies and a master’s degree in Social Entrepreneurship. He is currently pursuing his Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology, continuing his mission to bridge the gap between emotional awareness and practical growth.
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Communication is often cited as the most important factor in a relationship—both sharing your feelings with your partner and actively listening to theirs. That’s why asking each other questions about your individual identities, experiences, goals, and habits as a couple can strengthen your romantic bond and give you the best shot at going the distance. Below, we’ve put together a long list of fun, deep, and challenging questions to ask your partner to get to know them (and your relationship) better. We also spoke to professional dating coaches for recommended questions and tips on how to ask them.
The Best Questions to Ask in a Relationship
- What does your perfect first date look like?
- What are your personal hopes and dreams for the future?
- What family traditions from your childhood do you most want to preserve?
- What are your biggest goals for the next five years?
- What makes you feel secure in our relationship?
- What’s one value you hold that you feel is important for our relationship?
- What’s one thing I can do to support you emotionally?
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- ↑ John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview
- ↑ Kevin Nahai. Therapist, Life Coach, and Couples Counselor. Expert Interview
- ↑ Lauren Sanders. Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview
- ↑ https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/relationships-and-communication
- ↑ Lauren Sanders. Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview
- ↑ https://extension.usu.edu/hru/blog/what-women-need-in-a-relationship-10-essential-elements-for-a-strong-and-fulfilling-relationship
- ↑ https://www.teenvogue.com/story/questions-to-ask-your-girlfriend
- ↑ https://extension.usu.edu/hru/blog/what-men-need-in-a-relationship-10-essential-elements-for-a-strong-and-fulfulling-relationship
- ↑ https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/our-work/public-engagement/healthy-relationships/top-tips-building-and-maintaining-healthy-relationships
- ↑ Kevin Nahai. Therapist, Life Coach, and Couples Counselor. Expert Interview
- ↑ John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview
- ↑ Courtney Quinlan. Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview
- ↑ https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/grow-individually-in-a-relationship/
- ↑ Zamira Pla. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Embodiment Coach. Expert Interview
- ↑ Zamira Pla. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Embodiment Coach. Expert Interview
- ↑ https://www.gottman.com/blog/manage-conflict-triggers/
- ↑ https://www.masterclass.com/articles/values-in-a-relationship
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/anger-in-the-age-of-entitlement/201905/intimacy-and-communication
- ↑ https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4560465/
- ↑ Lauren Sanders. Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview
- ↑ Lauren Sanders. Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview
- ↑ Zamira Pla. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Embodiment Coach. Expert Interview
- ↑ https://www.gottman.com/blog/10-questions-happy-couples-constantly-asking-one-another/
- ↑ Kevin Nahai. Therapist, Life Coach, and Couples Counselor. Expert Interview
- ↑ Kevin Nahai. Therapist, Life Coach, and Couples Counselor. Expert Interview
- ↑ https://www.youloveandyoulearn.com/blog/deep-meaningful-conversations
- ↑ https://www.marriage.com/advice/communication/reasons-husband-wont-talk/
- ↑ https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/understanding-men/my-boyfriend-is-sick-of-my-heavy-conversation

















